Another perspective

Had a late night chit chat with a dear little friend and it made me comes to realize some things about a relationship. I know right, me giving a lecture on relationship? Scram if you want!

1) "Just because he don't love you the way you wants, doesn't mean he don't love you with everything he got"
Something i saw from tumblr. Which bring us to the second point.

2) Be positive. Look on the bright side. Appreciate every single things he done for you regardless how big or small it is. 
Boyfriend did not give you any gifts for your anniversary? At least he remember the date.
Boyfriend do not have time to accompany you as much as you like? At least he bother to drive you around.
Examples. Just saying.
Go think of what your partner have done for you that you could be grateful and appreciative of. It will make you happier and naturally he will be.
This also means to say don't be envious of other couples that seem "sweeter". Firstly, it make you oversees what your Love had done for you. Secondly, no couples post their quarrels on Facebook/ Twitter right?! What is the point of being jealous when you are unaware of what the complete story would be?

3) Expectation and disappointments
Argh! Seriously?! Screw this.
I guess this is something common in all relationship.
The key is how you handle your expectation. Don't want to be disappointed? Reduce your expectations. Then at least you not only wouldn't be disappointed, and who knows you might be surprised.
I know this sound damn pessimistic. But being let down, facing disappointments really sucks. Don't you think so? :(

4) If you can't change somebody, join him
It is not that i am not caring enough about my boyfriend, and that why i let him do as he wants. Come on, it is easier to go:
"Wah lau! Why are you always doing your hobbies, and neglecting me? Drop your hobbies plox *insert sad face*" Or  "Wah biang! You are always going out to enjoy. Friends first, i second. I don't like you to meet your friends." Or "Wah kao! Why are you always playing Dota? Don't you find it boring ? Stop Dota now!@#$%^"
BUT, I believe in having them making the (right) decision themselves, rather than imposing your will on them. Who likes to be controlled? Let them make the decisions themselves.
Then again, this also leads to more disappointments. And you are left to deal with your it once again.
My suggestion is, on some occasions, join him. If he is going out with his friends, accompany him. If he has a hobby, listen to him, share his excitements. Notice how his face lit up when he talks about it.
On the other occasions, just go and do something with the additional amount of time you have. Watch a movie, listen musics, meet up with friends. Stop focusing that your boyfriend is not with you.
Alright, or you can be a lost puppy and sob.
On a side note, maybe you would like to ignore him until he bother enough to come find you? :D *wink*

So that about it. And no, not all things are between me and Huihan. It is just some of my perspectives i had when i was talking with my friend. And you might disagree but so be it. Nonetheless, happiness, disappointing, arguments, communications, I rather be in a relationship where both parties show commitment than to be in a fling. True story bro.